Self-help Advice We Should All Ignore

Begin Your Wealth Building With A Plan–Not 'self-help'

Wealth-building aspirations are best realized by: Investigation, Planning and Goal Setting and, of course, execution.

A good place to start? A written Business Plan, answering all the important questions and laying out a strategy for getting underway.

When preparing a business plan start out with your self. What are your goals? your personal values? Your plan should contribute to achieving your goals. But however you set out to achieve your goals, it's unlikely you will stick with your own program if the goals and the strategies you identify are not consistent with your personal values.

In this Huffington Post essay, writer Poorna Bell speaks of many suggestions one might address–and 'self-help' guidance to avoid–when pursuing goals based primarily on what you believe to be your personal goals

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From "Four Pieces Of Advice The Self-Help Industry Tries To Peddle (But Which You Should Ignore)"

"Launched in the 1970s by US giants like Tony Robbins and Louise Hay, and fed by videos ranging from "The Secret" to "What the Bleep Do We Know?", the self-help movement has become a booming industry offering everything from NLP and healing to the Law of Attraction.

"Though these ideas may be useful to some, the overall value of self-help remains worryingly unproven.

Sarah Alexander, author of "Spiritual intelligence in Leadership: From Manager to Leader in Your Own Life" is concerned that the movement is presenting a hugely over-simplified set of ideas and assumptions about life that risk causing more problems than they solve, including increased anxiety, decreased self-esteem and a deep dissatisfaction with life.

"So what exactly are the pitfalls of self-help? Here are some key concepts that Sarah Alexander believes it may be best to ignore.


"We must follow our dreams. Set goals clarifying what we want to achieve, and then visualize them. By doing this anyone can realize a dream.

"But by following this self-help advice many risk their incomes, or struggle to generate business from a small venture aligned with their 'calling' and yet they lack the inner resources, mindset or external support structures necessary to run their schemes effectively.

"The belief that our greatest goals and intentions can work out through the sheer power of intention can also trigger intense feelings of shame at disappointing outcomes. Add this into our stressful lives, and our sense of worth and confidence can quickly erode.

Remember: just because it's a dream doesn't mean it will pay the bills.


"Take massive action, make life happen, become a 'yes' person and the Universe will support us and gives us what we want.

"In fact, the pressure continuously to take massive action and keep saying 'yes' is known to leave people depleted and overwhelmed, a balance in their lives may be lost and their sense of self-worth may start to erode.

"If we really value our time, energy, relationships and health, 'no' is a word we must embrace. We all have the ability to discriminate between situations when we should work really hard and other times when we should refuse. It's this capacity for discrimination that brings rewards.


"We must avoid focusing on our problems. We create our difficulties through our own thought processes and subconscious beliefs, so placing attention on a problem energises it.

"Instead we should keep our focus fixed on our intended destination, and stay happy, as happiness has a healing effect on all our problems.

"While there's much to be said for taking responsibility for our problems and seeing beyond them, ignoring problems altogether rarely resolves anything. And all the 'happiness' in the world is unlikely to heal a person heading towards bankruptcy.

"Moreover, the notion that we've created our own problems as a result of our thinking - while often empowering and sometimes true - can make us feel guilty if this subtle message is crudely delivered. Blaming ourselves is of no value.


"Current mindfulness practitioners teach us just to bring our awareness into the present moment, by noticing our breath, thoughts or feelings. The aim is to keep our focus on what we are currently doing and experiencing.

To support this, a host of Mindfulness Apps and Bells have emerged. However, these methods do little to bring about any real mental silence. There is no shortcut to mindfulness: it takes time, effort, awareness, and perseverance.

"If we are able to turn inwards and practice mental quietude, our intuitive wisdom, inspiration and creativity naturally arise to guide us. It's by strengthening our ability to tune into our own inner wisdom and intuition that we stand the greatest chance of finding long-term happiness, developing emotional stability and creating a sense of personal fulfillment."

Meanwhile, let's remain open to the possibility that the self-help advice industry, with its estimated $11 billion turnover in the US alone, and its multitude of advice, help and solutions to all of life's dissatisfactions, may possibly serve those who sell it more than those who buy it.

– The Huffington Post